Jon R. Cohen, M.D. Chief Executive Officer & Director | Talkspace
In a marriage, love and connection can sometimes fade, leaving partners feeling isolated and uncertain about the future. This common issue is explored in a recent discussion about surviving a loveless marriage.
Many couples face periods of disconnection, where affection and intimacy give way to mere coexistence. Research indicates that most couples who endure difficult times eventually find happiness again. "Two-thirds of couples who stayed together during tough times reported being happy within 5 years," according to one study. Interestingly, those who divorced or separated during unhappy periods were not necessarily happier afterward.
The decline in marital connection often results from gradual changes or unresolved issues such as stress, poor communication, and external pressures like financial difficulties or demanding careers. These factors can lead to emotional exhaustion and distance between partners.
Recognizing signs of a loveless marriage is crucial for addressing the issue early on. Common indicators include lack of communication, frequent arguments, minimal physical affection, and feeling emotionally distant.
Rekindling love in a marriage requires commitment from both parties. Professional support through counseling can be beneficial in reigniting connections. Talkspace therapist Minkyung Chung emphasizes the importance of counseling: “Seeking marriage or couples counseling can help address marital issues and clarify each partner’s goals for the relationship."
To rebuild a marriage, couples should focus on improving communication by using healthy practices like "I" statements and active listening. Spending quality time together through shared experiences can also help restore intimacy.
Chung advises patience: “If the decision to work and repair the relationship is made... Consider it like dating all over again.” Small gestures of affection and gratitude can gradually rebuild emotional closeness.
Ultimately, some couples may realize their marriage has reached its natural end. In such cases, prioritizing personal well-being is essential. Whether choosing to rekindle the relationship or move on independently, seeking professional guidance through platforms like Talkspace can provide valuable support for navigating these challenges.